Episode 4 of ‘I love women but sometimes’…
I’m back… I told you that the topic’s too vast to be covered in a trilogy… So here comes the fourth installment of my " I love women but sometimes" commentary…
People might be wondering, what’s my big issue with women of today and why I write so much about them… Once again, I retiterate that I LOVE women and the comment are based only on some of them… Ok fine, MANY of them but NOT ALL… Judging from the responses, most seem to have taken it on the right note thus far…
The reason for my sudden literary fascination with the fairer sex is due to recent situations and current environment… My best of friends are in sorry spirits or have been so for quite some time… ReasoN: Women. One of them is in a far away land reminiscing in solitude about a long term relationship that was terminated by his other half after half a decade… Another is in an utter state of confusion and pain revolving around his recent experience with the opposite sex… As for myself, my single status in the past 5 months has been torturing me with days and nights of loneliness… An empty feeling… Not so much for the loneliness but the vacuum in the heart yearns to be filled and occupied by a familiar tenant… The kind of feeling that makes you wanna kick yourself for some decisions you made in life… The only odd one out in the group who seems to have his peace of mind intact, is a buddy of mine who hasn’t had a whiff of a woman in his life… I mean, in THAT way, not literally… Having been single all his life long at 26, the guy has waaaay better things to do than to be lamenting like the rest of us, " Dei, why are women like that???" in 24 hour prata joints…And over MSN… And on the phone… And during Deepavali visits… And at surprise birthdays… And in clubs… And the list goes on…
Guys start doing weird things when a special woman enters their lives and even weirder things when they leave… I’ve had friends who quit smoking and drinking to impress their special girl… I’ve seen guys turning into poets overnight… I’ve seen friends running atop buildings and skyscrapers to take photographs of nature and sceneries, just to put a smile on their girl’s lips… Gung-ho friends of mine have meekly hidden and had a hurry-burry smoke at some ulu corner during gatherings with their special girls and her friends, so as not to create a bad impression… I see working men borrow money from friends just to bring their dates to exotic places to impress them… I’ve seen poor guys who run every errand for girls they are not attached to, just so that she might reciprocate some day… I, for one,refused to attend my own brother’s wedding when I freshly got attached because the date my mom fixed,clashed with my then girlfriend’s 21st birthday celebrations( A good 3 1/2 years back) Why do we do all that?
I’ve had friends who rambled for months after their girfriends left them… I’ve had friends who became semi-psychotic stalkers who followed their ex-girlfriend whereever she went… I’ve had friends who’ve got their ex-girlfriend’s name on their bike but the girl doesn’t give two shits… I personally come up with lame reasons to call my ex-girlfriend and call her out for no reason at all… Damn, I didn’t wanna spend my birthday with anyone else but her! Why do we do all that?
Do they deserve it? Do we deserve it? Some of them do, I guess… There are girls who really can’t get over past relationships for months… But often, these are the girls who’d not have been attached to the deserving kinda guys like I mentioned above… They’d have been probably attached to some total bastard who used to abuse her, physically or verbally, or else squeeze every dollar out of her pocket money to the max, hooked up one night stands at Raagawoods while she was sleeping at home or simply laid her and left her once he was bored… Those kinda assholes get girls who pine for them… Ironically, the really nice guys get girls who flush them down the toilets and look for another fella to put up with their shit…
Whilst some ladies give their lives out to the guys they love, some others are looking for men as past-times and joy-rides.Some are on the other end of the spectrum, even planning their break-up months or years ahead… Someone whom I know was supposedly planning to break up with her boyfriend for a long time… However, she never did for goddamn-whatever-reason-that-could be and finally broke off after TWO freaking years of consideration… In the two years, she probably never mentioned anything to the poor unsuspecting fella but chose to tell others about it instead…
Damn, something sudden came up and i gotta go at the most interesting part now… This will be continued… Stay tuned…
November 2nd, 2006 at 3:03 am
My Dear Vishnu…
Juz as much as i love yr name, I love yr blogs. Hope i dun becum yr stalker! Heheh.. Ok, juz kidding, really juz Kidding!
Its human nature, for a guy to go head-over-heels for a screwed personality gal & for a gal to go head-over-heals for a screwed up guy!
God created 2 diff types of gems:
Women are the gems by creation, While Men, in other words are the unpolished gems, only some take time to get polished & glow, whereas some nevr get polished at all!
I like unpolished gem & a all time glowing gem!
But… its juz that some of unfortunate ones turn out to be the Gem which loses its shine & glow AND ruins the name of the glowing ones!
Same goes for men too.
Well, juz like guys going on & on abt “Gals being like this & like that”.. we gals too do same stuff! Or rather My best buddy & I do tat wen we chat & hang on the phone for hours! Its juz how each individual can see the stuffs happening ard him/her & clarifying it among frens. Common Thing!!
As for Guys/Gals who really…. change every bit of their lifestyle aftr being attached.. I got ntg to say abt it!
These ppl wld always say “I love her/him, & its for the loved one i’m changing for, nt a big deal”.. Again i wld say, its a
typical nature of a guy/gal wen in love.
You really do have diff types of frens who have various kind of experiences.. Good, u are well-exposed.
Anyway, No1’s perfect!! Me aint perfect either to comment abt yr blog.. juz that my past experiences have kinda moulded me
into a person who can understand the world in a better picture! And, i like it wen it comes to these kind issues brought up by my frens.
Oh.. by the way the vacuum in yr heart is yearning for a tenant.. Any criteria for a tenant?? Ok, juz kidding!
Dun feel lonely.. If u do… let me know, I’ll use my special powers to chase yr loneliness away!(Like real only i’m saying).. I’m juz in a confused & horrible mood… Hope nt irritating you by my above mentioned stuffs…
Awaiting yr continuation…
November 18th, 2006 at 9:00 am
update soonn… yr blog entries are really interesting….. =]
December 14th, 2006 at 9:56 pm
I happened to come across ya frenster profile and realised u had a blog… So i thought u might write something about the media world u are so involved in… But lil did i noe… tat i was in for a surprise…
Everything you wrote is not just the opinion of a male but the agony of the females… Yes.. The women too hate the moves and actions of some of their fellows…
But a point i dun agree with is, not all gals look for a brad pitt or tom cruise… at least myself and some of the wonderful gals i noe dun..
Your blog is very mind-provokin and interesting.. it sure makes a woman think and reflect to realise if she is guilty of any that u have mentioned… Pls do write more.. i enjoy it and from the number of comments u got, i believe so does many others..!
Cheerios!
December 26th, 2006 at 12:28 am
yr entries are very interesting…
January 7th, 2007 at 5:59 am
dude u might like tis
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZafKxcq-Mk
copy and paste
damn u really have probs with understanding women.u mite not noe/understand but females do face the same probs.its just that each gender have dii ways of dealing w/ the confusion. some pre-ordained by society
January 16th, 2007 at 1:30 am
Hi,
Not that i want to sound rude or anything. I can understand that experiences with women do make u , rather irritaed with the decisions they make. Yes i do agree, there are joy=riders, in gals just as there are among the men. The gals do things like dish the guy they love, and go for a better man or pursue their dreams..So do the guys, at any point in their lifes. We must appreciate and understand that all things no matter what stands on one thing, we can only do it..if it is done wholeheartedly..Then you may ask why do it in the first place..Well, if we had the answer to that, many of life’s puzzles would be solved. Maybe you arein pain, which i believe many would sympathise with you..and yes i would as well. But you must understand the pressures she would have faced..Gals, seldom reveal to you, maybe that’s the entire issue..no, i am not siding the female race..here.just that, dont prolong something that u know wont work out, go out there, and pursue your dreams to the best you can..A woman, is someone who loves you for you, and ends up sharing a lifetime of challenges with you, so if she cant handle the relationship it’s good she made that decision to leave..you..cos it would be worse if you end up in a life journey only to know that it would end prematurely..the hurt stays forever..So have a good time..and great hosting..and lots of luck wherever and in whatever decisions you so decide to make..Bye.
January 30th, 2007 at 6:57 pm
im pretty sure there are galz out there who can provide u with tender loving care.. but they may not be up to the standardz of the dream gal tht u want.. Guyz at times can be demanding too..maybe when we lower down our expectations, thing can be turnup differently… well all things are easily said then done… hope u find true love soon!!! Gd luck!
February 4th, 2007 at 9:17 pm
OMG!! I just wonder how much you love WOMEN to know them so well. My might find you a chauvinist. But the fact is, you love WOMEN, that’s why you are able to voice out your opinions so clearly and also be not “BIASED” at the very same time. I underline the word “BIASED” here.
As you keep on talking and talking about women, I think I shall vent out my opinions on the opposite sex soon. But I don’t understans neither about women or men well.
Anyway, with regards to the current entry: Who needs boyfriends when you have great girlfriends!!
ToodleZzZ!!
February 6th, 2007 at 8:25 am
hey viyshnu i was looking at my friens profile and i saw yours.Well to my suprise u have a blog too.It has been some time that u have entered a blog.I read the blogs u wrote about women and i truely agree with what u have written.Well it is all how fate and time plays i suppose.Writing this blog would really wake up some dudes and babe around who are actally playing around with their mates.But your blogs are really terrific and i hope to read more of it soon.And yeah u are really rocking the crowd in DHOOL..tc..
nithiyya
February 6th, 2007 at 9:12 am
This topic is written in explicit cynicism. Can be seen that it is spoken through experience. However,i will like to point out that there are relatioships which lasts out there. People just have to view life with a bit more optimism. Not whine and cry about everything which makes them even remotely upset. Just like you guys,who want us girls with a bit of everything including self honour, i think you should know that we want a guy with a bit of everything(you know what), that includes possessing a strong character as well.
February 6th, 2007 at 10:12 am
Hey Vishu…for getting me to read a blog n keep up with it for the first time…well done!..and for watever mentioned in ur ultimate sequel to a somewhat ‘ullai velliyae series’, hats off to you…i totally agree with you though being a girl person… keep at it…winkz*
March 25th, 2007 at 10:46 pm
=)
August 3rd, 2007 at 4:48 am
haha… THAT was funny… but hell yeah its true… i know someone who recently broke up with her bf… but you know what…before all that… they were going on about how they will be together for ages to come and get married and all the mushy things that only the lovesick people can come up with… just after 2 years they get pretty annoyed with each other’s flaws and roll their eyes at each other instead… haha… when she told me her lifestory i was biting my tongue to prevent myself from saying “i knew something like this would happen” :P… anyway maybe thats because its not really the best age to find a guy… i am 16…there are some who find good guys and stay on for long… but its not usually the case… especially if you are gonna get a guy who is 16 as well… it will be pretty hard… it makes all the sense in the world when they say females mature faster than the males
August 6th, 2007 at 9:19 am
Helo Vishnu….
sincerely, yourz is the very first blog dat i read all entries cOntiniOusly,itz interestin! i would sae dat i dun disagree o agree to everythn dat u hv shared for i believe dat every individual hv very different views on thngz… Well actually life n relationshipz wld b so much esaier if therez no expectationz o judgementz wit every1 v mit…m saein the impossible yea’ haha but trust me ull feel the difference, juz one day try nt to judge any1 o anythn u see, talk o hear(even if u hv known em)ull experience Acceptance…. Every1z beautiful…m no saint bt wil attempt for a betta me! Cheerz!
November 4th, 2007 at 9:42 pm
Hey dude,
Personally in my opinion I feel guys just waste their time on girls who don’t even care about them. On the other hand girls also waste their time on guys who don’t even give them a second look. The whole objective of the above mentioned is love. Love is a divine thing; to some it’s about all the materialistic pleasures in the world. Even lust, its controversial in a sense as to whether one can consider it divine or not. I am not against love or supportive of it. In today’s world love is categorized in three ways if one has money, a good profession and looks. He/she can win most of the girls or guys around him. Even looks don’t matter anymore. It’s the cash in pockets that matter. But love should not be only about money, looks and prestige. It’s more than that/ love has been existent for many years even before money was created. Even before human beings evolved into what they look today, thus love was never about money or looks. Love is beyond the beyond that its difficult to decipher it sometimes.
I agree guys have done a lot for their girls. They have sacrificed loads. But we women also sacrifice a lot. This is based on a personal experience I had a boyfriend from a very elite school. I used to spend loads of money on him. He never actually spent money on me. Most of the time he had no money. The irony is he was from a rich family. Me being from a upper middle class background had more money than him and I paid for the food every time we dined. That did not really piss me off in the beginning but gradually I was getting sick of it. The thing is our relationship the reason why our relationship did not last because; it was not only due to money matters. He was a confused person that really doubted his love for me. He would say he loves me than he will say he is confused. He was treating me like a “special” friend. That was oblivious. He made use of me only for money and for physical comfort. Thank goodness we did not go beyond hugging or kissing. At least I did not lose out in the relationship. I am still pure.
So one fine day I decided to break out from this relationship. I did not like being made use off. I sacrificed so many family outings just to be with a bastard like him. Which I greatly regret now, I even started to ignore my friends for a bastard like him. My friends were understanding and they were true friends so they were there for me. He was not even good looking. People consider me beautiful and they were shocked at my taste. They were so glad that I broke up with him. Then another problem about him was he would want breaks during our relationship like one week no form of communication at all. That caused me loads of frustration. That’s when I decided to ignore him for once and for all.
Than he started to appreciate me he called me so many times. He wrote me many messages to patch back. I was very strong in my decision. Thanks to my love consultant. Haha. Today I am happy for dumping him. I knew I made the right choice and I did the right thing. I am a contented teenager today. Eventually I only lost my money nothing more than that. Money can be earned. You were right Vishnu nice girls don’t get nice guys and nice guys don get nice girls. I guess if that happens the world will be too perfect. hahah. But that’s not fair to the nice girls and guys. I was quite stupid in spending my money on him. I realize my mistake now. I won’t do it again. It’s my turn to make use of guys now. Devil laughter. Another thing I learnt was that I was too young for a relationship and the love I had for him was just infatuation. I have no regrets and I am very glad that I ended that childish relationship. =)
Love
Viesh
December 14th, 2007 at 7:50 am
I feel tat girls r complicated but if u get to neo them they r great ppl.
gd girls do end up wit bad boys n gd boys do end up wit bad girls.It’s part n parcel of life!You have i choice!
if u choose a bad gf it tells a whole lot abt u!Just live yur life as if it is yur last day!NO REGRETS!!!
October 21st, 2008 at 9:35 am
Can you please remove my previous comment. Thank you very much.
Viesh.